Wed 8 Aug 2012
Your Friends say, ‘try this cigarette’ and you say ‘yes’ for the sake of sounding ‘cool’. Your girlfriend asks to spend some time with her on your mom’s birthday, you say ‘yes’ for sounding loyal. Your boss asks you to finish a work of 2 days in an hour you say ‘yes’ for sounding ‘dependable’. Are you cool, dependable and loyal? Or are you a pushover?
The ‘yes’ personalities often have a hard time to say that two letter word only because they think it would upset or disappoint people. They think by saying ‘yes’ they would sound open, willing and challenging. For them the word ‘no’ often seems like a representation of weak attitude, of failure and of pessimism.
If yes means work and shifting priorities then it could also mean late nights, frustrations, lack of focus and loss of faith. We are often scared to use this word, but it is important that we take it as our ally and not an enemy. When you have wasted enough time and effort and feel wronged by yourself on a cross roads of life, say no! If it isn’t your kind of opportunity, say no! If that relationship is not meant for you, say no! If you think it is right, then you are probably right! It is okay to say “no” folks! You can’t be a winner in everything. If it isn’t a ‘hell yes!’, it should probably be a no!
Make peace with the ability to say ‘no’! Feel balanced and authentic throughout your life. Just be real and honor yourself by taking this simple decision.
As American humorist Henry Wheeler Shaw once rightly said;
“Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough”.