Upgrade you’re Confidence Levels.
Are you one of those people who feel awkward during parties, drawing room conversations, in public places, amongst people and more so when you have to carry out a task single-handed? Do you shy away from responsibility or interaction with others? Do you feel like you are just not capable enough? Are you in continuous turmoil and want to be appreciated by all, but feel you are lacking that something? Well, written below is something that is about to change your perspective to life.
If you believe you are low on confidence and esteem, for starters that’s where you are faltering, as you need to fathom that low confidence and low esteem are interconnected with each other, as well as the cause of each other creating a ripple effect.
Confidence is a learned behavior, its not genetic, thus it can be learnt and boosted. It’s just up to you as to how you would like to go about it. I understand that it’s not easy for everyone to be talkative, extroverted and bold. But there are a few misconceptions that reigns supreme which need to be cleared and one of them is that a shy, introverted person is the way he/she is because they are low on confidence. This thought can be changed. These are two different phenomenons and that’s what needs to be comprehended. A shy person can be confident; it’s just by personal choice that he/ she prefers not being open, loud and blunt, about his/her behavior and thoughts. Whereas a person who is low in confidence and esteem believes that it is not possible for him/her to tackle a situation the way others do! So remember a shy person is not a person with low confidence, whereas a person with low confidence can turn into a shy person.
To get over this phobia, which in most cases is a personal squabble with one’s own insecurities, fears and complexes, is not difficult! It’s all about having control over one’s mind and recognizing one’s self worth. The way of going about this is…
- Try and keep your mind and its needs and necessities in sync with your body.
- Secondly, psyche yourself, in a way, making yourself believe that nobody else is superior than you are. Boost your own ego, but to an extent, don’t get enamored by yourself, but definitely appreciate yourself. This is what I call the technique of self worth once you have become a prodigy to this technique you are sure to become confident.
- Goal setting is another effective way of building self-confidence. By setting measurable goals and achieving them you are sure to get more confident. Try it, it never fails!
- Try getting out of your shell. Be bold; speak up when you think your thought is valuable. Once you have learnt the art of valuing your worth, others are not far behind, they will too!
- Another cause of low self-confidence is scare of failure. Well, to this I have just one thing to say, if you don’t experience failure how will you ever enjoy the pleasure of success? Thus as wise men say regret is a wasted emotion, if you happen to fail, no problem, buckle up, and prove yourself again.
- Determination and the need to excel are two things that can help one to be confident. It’s a continuous struggle with the mind and if you emerge as the winner you’re sure to be confident enough to succeed.
Once you have started believing and appreciating yourself, low esteem and low confidence in yourself will never crop up again and I guarantee that. Any emotion or behavior pattern is not difficult to control or enhance if you have the focus and determination to do so. If you have made up your mind to change, remember, there is nothing stopping you.
The key to self confidence is: Stop looking at others for approval of your actions, believe in yourself. For this, one needs to understand and appreciate oneself. Once that is done more than half the battle is won! Always applaud yourself for trying and getting over your inhibition. If you, yourself start finding your doings creditable, problems will cease to exist and things will be easier to tackle.
All in all, understand the fact that lack of self-confidence and esteem is not necessarily related to lack of ability, but often the result of focusing too much on the unrealistic expectations or standards that others have set for us, like society, family, friends and our parents. So don’t fall prey to these standards. Set your own standards and be satisfied and content in achieving them. That’s the trick of this trade!
